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It really depends.

So a lot of people are of the opinion that sex on the first date means that the people involved are, for the ladies, slutty, and, for the guys, not entirely interested in having any form of relationship after that.

Now that may appear true in some cases, especially one that both parties mutually, though unbeknown to each other, agree on taking a more mature path by making the decision together to not further what it already is.

However, this doesn’t exactly make a lady a slut and doesn’t mean the man is a player and I’ll tell you how/why.

Maturity. Most meets such as this aren’t always amongst naïve people or young amateur ones. Most of these meets are amongst two adults, who first of all, recognize that that is what they are and act like it also. These set of people go into this sort of brief relationship with the aim of leaving any form of questions at the door. It can be picked back up later and if indeed they both want to, which means they intend to further what had already started. This in no way makes either party a slot or a bad person.

Intoxication. So picture a scenario where you meet up with a friend who peradventure you haven’t had any form of sexual relationship with but have a really great relationship as friends. You decide to meet up for drinks at either of your places, one random day, to catch up on a favorite TV show or football match (if she is a fan) and after much laughter and excitement, you both had had enough to drink and because you connected in a vibrant way, having sex at that point doesn’t make you a slut. Because it really was under the influence anyway, it wasn’t exactly planned. Not to endorse the act that is, but these things happen randomly and innocently and one shouldn’t be judged for it.

Mutual agreement. Picture another scenario where you meet up with this person you had been chatting with for a while now, about casual topics such as sex and because you both seem so comfortable talking about it and also realize you may have some sexual preferences in common, you agree to meet up to try it out. And so your first meeting ever or date results in a sexual intercourse. This is perfectly normal and you shouldn’t be considered a slut for this. Especially if you both decide you probably should try out other conversations aside that.

Sex at first sight. There are case scenarios where you are, say at a bar, drinking alone and you spot someone of the opposite sex across the room from you and immediately feeling sexually attracted to him or her, after taking in what your eyes could feed you about their body. You could even almost tell the personality and that would be a bonus. Or you could imagine they would make for a good conversationist and then you proceed to chat up and even find him or her is actually smart and you are sapiosexual by nature, you shouldn’t be stoned for initiating sex right after, and especially if it is mutual.

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